Mike Short, student, wrestler
Interviewed at his home in Kingston, New York, May 27th, 2005.
Born: 1987 in Kingston, New York
“The Zen Master warns: ‘If you meet Buddha on the road, kill him!’ This admonition points up that no meaning that comes from outside ourselves is real… How often we make circumstances our prison and other people our jailers! At our best we take full responsibility for what we do and what we choose not to do. The most important struggles take place within the self.”
— Richard Layton, from Discussion Group Report entitled “If you meet the buddha on the road, kill him!” April 1996. (http://www.humanistsofutah.org/1996/IfYouMeetTheBuddhaOnTheRoad_DiscGrp_4-96.html)
“When I first come into the studio to work, there is this noisy crowd which follows me there; it includes all the important painters in history, all of my contemporaries, all of the art critics, etc. As I become involved in the work, one by one, they all leave. If I’m lucky, every one of them will disappear. If I’m really lucky, I will too.”
— The painter Philip Guston quoted in Daniel M. Wegner, “The Illusion of Conscious Will,” (MIT Press, Cambridge, MA, 2002) p.84.
MS:
I’m a little slower in the way I think, like I’ll be thinking one way and then I’ll be, like, “Oh, this is a better way to do it.” Like some friends will go straight to the easiest route. Me, I’ll start going off the hard, back to the easy, find an easier route, and that’s the way I take.
I spent six and a half hours writing a 7-page essay on something. I didn’t want to tell them because the teacher’s, like, “How long did you spend on this?” And I just said, “Too long.” I didn’t want to say that I spent six and a half hours on it.
LS:
Well, that’s learning! There’s more learning in that than getting to the goal of having a paper in your hand.
MS:
Yeah. But I spent a lot of time on it, I ended up doing really well, but everyone thinks I spent and hour and a half on it. I’m not the smartest person in class, it’s just I work the hardest.
We just got done with our pre-calculus final. Today we got the grades back. I expected to do good on it, because my average throughout the year had been decent, it had been around 80. I got an 85 on it. I was one of the best in my class. I didn’t expect to do that well. It came down to what I had was an 82 average through 3 quarters, and I end up pulling an 85.
I ended up doing better than most of my class, and they’re, like, “You must have spent extra time on it.” I said, “No, I spent the same amount of time as you. I was in your class, right there.” I used to be… I have ADD, you know what that is, right?
LS:
I know about it.
MS:
Attention Deficit Disorder. I take Cylert and small doses of Ritalin at night, when I start feeling tired and I need something to help me focused.
I am in Resource. Everybody thinks that Resource is a big place for stupid people. It’s not. Some of the smartest people in my school, that I’ve known, have walked through Resource. I would do good on like a Regents test, or something like that, they are, like, “You must have got more time.” “No, I was sitting right there with you. I got the same grade as you.”
I realized my Freshman year that I didn’t have to study… as long as I did my homework and paid attention in class. I found that everyone was cramming the night before, and I was sitting at home watching TV. I pull 90’s on tests.
They’re like, “How long did you study for this.” I didn’t. “So how do you do it?” “I do my homework, I pay attention in class.” I’ve gone through school without my pills, and I notice a slight change. I have a little harder time focusing when I do my homework, but I’ll end up doing my homework. It may not be as good because I didn’t focus, but I do it.
I went out, did my SAT’s this year. I did the awful, worst thing… I got a 300 on the English section. I’m not that good at pulling essays in, like 55 minutes. I can pull out a good essay, a good page and a half essay, if I’ve got 2 hours to read it over, my mistakes, reword sentences that were simple, that I could reword better. But I got a 300 on the English and I was, like, “Oh, my God!” The average for this is like a 600.
The math sector, out of the average was 580, I pulled out a 700 on it. I pulled out a 700: so much better than the average. All my friends were, like, “How’d you pull out a 700?” Math is just my easy point, math and science are my simple points in my life.
That’s why I want to be an architect. It brings math into my life, and I don’t know, but, like you said, you’ve got to find the simple things and then work out your easier things, work at things you’re worse at.
I’ve been working at English and all that for a couple of years. I’m just telling you this, but for a couple of years my reading level was pretty bad. I came in the high school with like a 5th grade reading level. My reading was awful. I was in Resource because of that, because of my reading disability. Writing wasn’t so bad, but reading I was at a 5th grade level.
The English Regents now, for 11th grade, is you have to write 4 essays, two days, it’s 6 hours. I took this twice. Mid-year, half way through 11th grade English, I pulled out a 75 on it. I go, “OK, I can work harder in class, become better.” My reading became better over the year, but somehow I pulled out the same grade of a 75. It’s like the first essay I put all my time and effort into. I spent like an hour and a half on it, writing it out, rewriting it, and the second one I took like an hour, where I couldn’t rewrite it, I couldn’t read over it.
That’s what Resource was there for. I don’t take it any more because my reading is now 11th or 12th grade level. My writing is on, or a little below.
LS:
Tell me where the importance of wrestling began?
MS:
Wrestling began for me, was 8th grade, and I was, like, “ify” on it, coming into my first year of high school because I heard it was really hard. I’m the type of person that doesn’t like backing down from things once I start ‘em. It’s like, I gotta complete ‘em.
I started wrestling my freshman year, and I came into the year getting off a broken leg from the football season. I had zero wins through the whole year, I lost every single one of my matches I came upon, and it was a little difficult. I was like figuring that I would have been a little better. I thought I would have one win.
Then the next year I’m coming around and I’m, like, “Am I ready to do this again?” I was, like, “Yeah.” I had fun, I made friends, it was my new sport. I went through it Sophomore year and came out with one win, and I was, like, “OK. There’s another win. There’s something I did.” And I had two coaches that went through with me for three years, up to Junior year: Alphonso Favata and his son Christian.
My Junior year I came out of it with 6 wins, nothing big. They were just at meets, and I had wins, and I was becoming better. I could feel myself, I changed myself, and I was feeling it.
My Senior year we found out Christian wasn’t coaching, and I was, like, “Who’s going to coach us? Who’s going to be our main coach?” Alphonse is the guy that is there, and our new coach came around, which happened to be Paul Widerman, who had come in years before. He had came in a couple of practices and taught us stuff. When we found out about that we were, like, “OK, we’ll see what he does.”
When Paul came out it was more of a fun, flowing thing. He taught us different things. He ended up teaching us yoga over the season. We went for outside jogs on one of his properties and had fun. It was a totally different set of mind for practices. When we’d go out and practice for the other three years it was like: “Drill, drill, drill! Intensity. Drill, drill, drill. Practice your moves! Intensity.” My year ended up being more progressive for me, in that year mentally and physically, than all three… than the other three years for me.
I ended up having a season of 17 and 8. I placed 5th in the New York State Sectionals with a couple of bad losses that I shouldn’t a had. I should have placed more in a couple of tournaments, which I realized because I was having my mental conflicts of, “Do I deserve to win? Do I want to win? Why do I wrestle? I wrestle to win!” And Paul sort of realized that, and a couple of guys that were good, and me especially, that we had the intensity, we had the practice, we had the drills, but we went out on the mat and somewhere we faltered.
We would have practices where… in one practice he pulled everybody together and he’s just like, “This is our practice today: what does everybody fear out here? Why isn’t anybody wrestling to their potential?” And I was actually the first one to step up with, “I’m afraid to win. I’m afraid to do my best.” And this was about a quarter of the way into the season, and we went on and I got better at it, fighting against that fear of losing, the fear of what my best is, and fulfilling my potential.
At one tournament I lost a match and I definitely shouldn’t have lost. I lost to a guy I should have beaten, and my coach Paul, and Alphonse, pulls me off to the side, and I’m just angry that I lost, and they start talking to me. They went over this with me: that I’m more into this fear thing of wining than they actually thought.
Through the season Paul helped me overcome this. He is, in a way, a mentor to me, he helped me overcome my fear. I’m not really over it yet, but when it comes down to it, when push comes to shove, whether I have to win or lose, I’m going to go out there and try my best. I’m going to win. I’m not going to do anything stupid, I’m not going to be afraid to win, afraid to go to my potential.
What Paul made me realize is that the person who wants it the most is the one that’s going to win. The person that’s not afraid to go out there and do it. So wrestling, in my life, even my parents saw it… by the time the end of this season came around they’re, like — they didn’t know who I was — they’re, like, “Who are you? Where’d you come from?” And I changed.
Paul is really the person that helped me in wrestling. It was somewhat a change in my attitude towards things, my character. Paul watched you and if he saw something that was bugging you, he would talk to you about it. I wish I had him for other years, but then, I might not be the person I am now. I might be a better person, I might be a worse.
Now that it’s over it’s like, “Am I good enough to be a walk-on at the college I’m going to?” Do I have enough time, when I go to college my Freshman year, to walk on to a wrestling team and spend the time to get beaten around by guys that have been there 2, 3 years? That’s now my new fight, “Do I have enough time to go out to college and do it again?”
I wish could go on, but my parents have helped me realize that my Freshman year of college isn’t going to be the easiest thing to do, and I don’t think that wrestling will be a major thing. I wish it could be, but I don’t think it’s going to be a major thing in my life.
LS:
Why?
MS:
I don’t know. It’s like: other plans. You’ve got to focus on the real world, that’s what everybody… that’s what my parents tell me. You’ve got to focus on what you’re going to become, you’re not going to become an All American wrestler. You’re not going to become an Olympic wrestler. You’re not going to make money off of wrestling. So it’s like, I’ve got to focus at what my life is actually going to be.
I got to focus on the future and not childhood things of wanting to keep doing sports. That’s my major problem I’m coming in with, is, I want to continue wrestling further, maybe not for the sport of it, but for the physical, healthy aspect of it. I don’t like saying this, but I’m afraid of what I could be if I hadn’t stuck with wrestling. I’m afraid I would be 325 pounds, 6’2” like I am now, and half the muscle and twice the size I am.
My coaches previous years helped me change, but not until Paul came around did I realize that I could become a better wrestler, that I could do a High Crotch, that I could take someone down, that I could pin ‘em.
I lost to a Saugerties kid 3 to 2, stupidly. I had him pinned on his back. I got impatient, as my coaches called it, and the kid got away from me. I had him pinned to the mat, and I tried to do something stupid: I tried to move around out in front of him to hopefully get it tighter, and he got loose and he ended up beating me 3 to 2 at the end.
Later on, I had another kid I the same situation, he was loose but he wasn’t going anywhere, just like the other kid wasn’t. He was stuck on his back, maybe not pinned, but the kid tired out and I pinned him. I was patient. It took me a minute and a half, it took me about a minute to pin the kid, but I was more patient in my movements, I was more patient in taking my shots, I waited for the right time instead of doing the stupid thing.
Talking about that now makes me realize that Paul helped me with that too, it made me less impatient in what I had to do. Sometimes I have to wait for the right things to come, I have to wait for things to come to me sometimes, not go to it, or try to. It may sound like the weirdest thing in the world but… I guess that’s the way it is in some things.
LS:
The things that you’re saying are so much bigger than the small stage that you’ve played them out on. You know that all of these issues apply to everything.
MS:
Yeah, that’s what my coaches, that’s why Paul is bringing them up. My fear to do things, like my fear to take a shot and all that, it may be a small thing there, but that expanded out into the rest of my life. It wasn’t that I’m afraid to take a shot, it’s that I’m afraid of taking risks. That’s how my coach put it. I understood as soon as he said that, that I was afraid to take risks.
All my friends make fun of me because at one point during the season one of my coaches said to me, “You gotta take risks. You can’t be afraid your whole life.” A lot of people make fun of each other on the team for the small things. They do make fun of me for that. But I just take it as a reminder that that’s what I had to overcome at that point in time. That’s what I still have to overcome.
Like all my friends, they bug me about asking girls out, and stuff like that. And they’re, like, “Why don’t you have a girl friend?” It’s more the risk of asking them out, I’m afraid to do it. They’ve all had like 4 or 5 girl friends, and they’re like, “Aw, it’s simple to do.” When you haven’t had one yet it’s difficult to ask.
LS:
It’s all in you mind. It’s all how you make it. You’re dealing with something that’s your own. The one thing that I’ll say is that the opposite of fear isn’t always bravery, it can be enjoyment. Enjoyment in the process. I don’t know what the opposite of fear is, foolishness, recklessness, or bravery? You let go of that too.
MS:
It’s a fine line between stupidity and bravery.
LS:
You could let both of them go and just say, “I enjoy what I’m doing. I’m going to have a good time no matter what happens.” Enthusiasm.
MS:
Wrestling has been the major role in my life, I know I’ve said it before but it really has. It’s my turn to make up my choice and whether I want to continue at SUNY Alfred, where I’m going. I don’t know if my coach there will be like Paul. I’m afraid that the coach will be the total opposite, like one of my other coaches, Christian, where we just drill, drill, drill: “I don’t care what you’re thinking, just do it! Go out there practice. Wrestle tough. The reason you’re losing is because you’re not good enough yet.”
LS:
You either take what you’re given, or you make up something else. Although, to tell you the truth, in my experience, it’s much easier to find what you need than invent what you need. You can’t make a stone house out of a bunch of trees, so it’s much easier to go where the stones are if you want to make a stone house.
I tried really hard to find out where I would fit in, and I wasn’t really able to, because I could never really get a straight answer from people. You know, nobody’s going to make a commitment until they know you. So I moved around a lot, between universities, and wasn’t very happy with where I ended up, but it played a role, and I take a lot of responsibility in it, both accepting it, and the way I antagonized people, that was me. So maybe it was the right thing, even though it wasn’t what I wanted. It’s very hard to know.
I guess my conclusion is that in the end what’s most important is what you make out of what you have. You never know for sure what you should be doing, where you should be going, whether your decisions are the right ones.
MS:
Yeah, my parents, right now, like I want to go to college for architecture. I’ve really had in my mind that I wanted to become an architect my whole life. What I’ve heard is they make good money, the good ones do. But when you start of it’s like, you don’t. And my parents are, like, “You sure you want to do this? You do you really want to go through this?” My parents are trying to change my mind on something that I’ve always wanted to do. They’re not happy with taking the difficult road, that I’m taking the harder road.
LS:
Well, one of the most important things about getting ahead in anything, and that they never teach you, is selling. In anything you go in to you’re always selling something. You’re selling yourself at every stage, whether you’ve got an idea, a project, or something you did, or something you want to do, you have to make your case.
And it’s not easy, it’s not obvious, and it’s not straight-forward. It’s hard to say whether it’s even honest, because a lot of people don’t want the honest answer, a lot of people, most people, they know what they want. They want you to say what they want.
It’s the same with asking girls out; asking people to do anything. People generally have an idea of what they want, and they’re looking for someone who’ll give it to them. And it may not be the right thing. You may know it’s the wrong thing, but you have the choice of convincing them to take what you’re offering, or give them what they want. And it’s like infinitely easier to give them what they want.
MS:
Yeah, I’ve heard that.
LS:
And if you try to sell them something else, often, the most you’ll do is get them to give you a tentative OK, and then they’ll switch back to what they wanted. Imagine if you tried to get a girl friend to be a wrestler, and they weren’t a wrestler, and you convinced them to be a wrestler through all kinds of strange arguments. And they bought into it. Well, it wouldn’t work for long if that wasn’t who they were.
MS:
Some of my friends are trying to do that. They’re trying to teach their girl friends to wrestle. And then they have them wrestling each other — it’s the funniest thing. And then the girls end up, after doing that, they’re like, “We don’t want to do this!” Then they end up arguing over it later.
LS:
And all the rest of this… It’s a mistake to believe that any set of courses and skills is going to get you to a point where you’re simply going to be handed a living. Nobody’s going to buy what your selling unless they feel that you are the winner, or the guy who’s going to be the winner, for them. And you can never sell them on the basis of some technical details, which they don’t understand, and don’t want to understand.
Architecture is not a corporate thing where you go up the ranks and get a secure position as an architect. It’s an independent contractor’s scene. In order to sell an idea, you have to have a number of things that are not part of the standard skill set. You need things that have more to do with wrestling than architecture.
MS:
They just want to know how big it is, what it looks like, and how big every room is, and if they have enough space for things. They don’t want to know how it’s done, or how it’s being built, or what it’s being built out of, they just what to know what it looks like, and if it’s right for them.
LS:
If you want to sell yourself as a wrestler in order to get on a wrestling team, or as an architect to get a job, how do you appeal to people? What will they respond to? How can you make it a partnership that’s going to work. Each situation is different, and you have to capitalize on your strengths.
But if you had this fear of winning, and this was evident to a coach, then you could spend all the time you want showing them your perfect technique and it probably wouldn’t be enough.
MS:
It wasn’t. That’s why I didn’t do my best until my senior year, until Paul came around and realized it. My other coaches probably saw it, but they didn’t know how to deal with it, and Paul did.
Paul learned that sometimes it is in your head. It maybe something as simple as an inch in your step, in your penetration step, or it could be something as major as I had: that you think you don’t deserve to win, to go out there and take the gold, you deserve to get first place. And that’s what Paul sort of taught me, that I practiced probably harder than any wrestler in my weight class.
Sometimes I fell back upon that fear when it came to, “Oh, he’s the number one seated, he must have practiced harder than me.” I lost to a kid from Valley Central that I stupidly did a move that I shouldn’t have, that I hadn’t practiced all year, that I thought I could catch him with. I lost. Later on Paul talked to me about it. Next match I went out there with a little more anger, a little more intensity, and I went out with the moves I knew: I beat him into the ground.
That’s how it should have been all year. I should have went out with a little more intensity, and little more anger, and just gone out there with the moves that I had, and not try and do something new. But I realize that sometimes you do make errors like that, that you think you can do something that you can’t, and there’s consequences to that. I know that from an ATV accident.
I crashed an ATV riding with somebody who was one of my friends. He swerved in front of me, I clipped his front tire, I went down. I ended up breaking three vertebra, L3, L4, and L5, and my right shoulder blade, and I was in bed for a while. And then I finally could sit up, I could walk lightly, my back was in extreme pain. I’ve had back problems my whole life because back pain runs in our family somehow, and that threw a knuckleball at me, at the end of my Freshman year.
When I crashed my ATV I knew I had done something. I did it by the Fording Place road, in the corn fields down in the Hurley Flats, you probably know. A bunch of my friends were there, and I crashed it, and I was laying there on the ground. I had so much adrenaline pumping through me at the time that I didn’t feel anything. I got up and walked away. Mom came down and picked me up. I came home.
I’ve a very bad scar on the back of my right knee that reminds me of this. Something that hit the back of my right knee left an open wound like this in it, about this deep in some areas, and I’ve a pretty bad scar, and pain in both of my knees on certain days, like on cold days I feel it.
But not until I got home about 4 hours later I was laying in bed, after I got out of the shower, and I’d sat down on a chair, and I’m like, “I can’t stand up, my back hurts.” It hurts so much I can’t get up. I could not get up and get to the car. Every time I got like this much off, it was, like, “Going back down!”
I ended up being taken off by an ambulance. My friends make fun of me because of that, because I broke three vertebra and a shoulder blade and they had to take me off in an ambulance. They make many comments upon that, but I learned, that was another stepping stone in my life, getting over that.
My doctor told me that I should never do sports again. He would be surprised that I would ever become more mobile than was after that. I didn’t do football until my Senior year, this year; went out there, worked my butt off. I wasn’t a starter until our final game against the second place team. We broke three of the records, that was our highlight of the year. We stopped their field goal record, we scored on their home field. Neither of those had been done.
I went out, did wrestling again. Came out with 17 wins. 5th in sections. 2nd place that I should have gotten 1st.
I went out for track, it was my first year out and I’m throwing shot. I throw nowhere near as good as the guys that throw, but I’m like hanging out there with my friends, and for the healthy part of doing another sport. And I did it, but I had major stepping stones from my back.
My doctor said that if I got hit the wrong way, I could have been paralyzed from my waist down. What would I have done if I had listened to him? I talked to many people that listened to doctors for, like, years of their lives. They can’t work: what are you going to do with the rest of your time? With your medical insurance you can’t live in a house, you can’t do nothing. The people ended up going back to work: they’re fine. They have slight pain, like I do. They’re perfectly fine.
My back, now, my senior year, is stronger than it’s ever been. Mentally I’ve become stronger, I’ll notice at nights when I’m getting tired at work, I’ll be, like, “Uh! My back hurts!” Subconsciously, in my head I’m just blocking out pain, it shuts off. It’s helped in my mental toughness. If I listened to my Doctor — I know it’s mean to say but — I would end up being like my brother.
I hate thinking about that, that my brother’s ending up the way he is. And whenever I try to do something to try to force him to not be the way he is, which makes us conflicted in many ways, he goes to my parents and I can’t do anything. This may sound funny to you: there’s always the major annoyances in your life, and one of them is my brother.
Everyone thinks they don’t like their siblings, I like my brother, but I have one annoyance that he has one thing that he’s extremely better than me at, which is riding an ATV, because that’s what he spends his time doing. And that’s all he can ever say that he’s better than me at. Like the other day, when we got to school we were arguing about something and he’s, like, “I’m better than you at riding an ATV!” And I ended up saying, “That’s the one thing that you’re better than me at, the ONE thing you’ve got on me!”
The other major thing that bugs me is skinny people that think they’re fat. I hate it when I see a girl that’s like skinny and she’s, like, “I’m so fat!” I just hate people like that.
And the last one’s the total opposite: I hate fat people that think they’re skinny. I know a couple of people like that, girls especially. I’ll see girls that are like, really big, I admire them for being this brave, but they’ll wear the short shirts, with the short shorts, with the low pants, and it’s like, “You just shouldn’t be wearing that.”
Those are the major things that bug me in my life. They may sound weird, considering that I’m a bigger person, but those are the only things. Sometimes you have weird things that bug you, and those are what they are.
Some people speak their mind toward the things that bug them. I’m one of those people that keep it bottled up. I know that could end up being a bad thing, like someone that goes out and kills a lot of people, but I’m not that type of person. I’m afraid of what could one day happen if I ever release that bottle of rage.
I have never been pushed to that point where I want to hit somebody. Except for one time, and it wasn’t even an angry point where I wanted to beat him, it was just like, “Shut up!” And I had to hit him to make him shut up. I have like a tolerance, like a really long fuse, as most people call it.
That’s always been my nature, but I think it’s expanded a little bit through wrestling. My fuse has grown even longer. My friends are like, “Where do you put all the anger, and the hate from people calling you names and doing mean stuff to you?” I’m like, “It’s in a little bottle over here in my left pocket.” And hopefully it will never be opened.
It may not seem like something that wrestling does, but wrestling helps me release it slowly. That’s probably one of the reasons why I haven’t done something stupid like hit somebody, or had a fight. When I had frustration during the season I would hold off during the day, and during practice I would release it into practicing harder, and practicing longer. And by the time the end of the season came, when our coaches were, like, we’ve got to have an easy practice, I’m like, “Come on. I really need a hard practice!”
My mental state of how I react to people has changed. How I think has changed, in ways. Like our coach had us write out, I can’t remember what they’re called, but you write out something so many times that it happens. I wrote out, “I could win,” like 250 times. I did it before every match toward the end of the season.
It changed my way in thinking. Even something simple like writing down “I could win,” a hundred times changes you mentally to believe that you can win. Our coach had the whole team do it together. I ended up winning most of my matches toward the end of the season.
I’d write down, “I’m going to practice harder. I’m going to…” do whatever. And I’d end up doing it, and he taught me that even the simplest things you do can change your whole thought output towards things. So in a way, my coach that one year was really a mentor towards me in my whole life and lifestyle. He was the one that realized that I was going to have problems in my future if I hadn’t stopped speaking out. I still do it now, a little, I’ll speak out at the wrong times, but I’ve restrained from it somewhat.
Alphonse brought this up. I would say, “No” at the beginning of sentences, when I’d ask a question. I’d asked are we going to do something, and he’s like, “We’re probably going to do something else.” And then I said, “No” and I asked him another question, and he got really angry at me about that, and I didn’t understand why he was getting angry because I was asking him a question. Him and Paul brought up the point that before every question I’d ask, after somebody answered another question, I’d say, “No” meaning like, “they’re wrong.” It was a simple way of how I’d speak, but it changed the whole way that people took what I said to them.
If you heard somebody say “No” after you answered their questions, and then asked you another one, and did that multiple times, it’s like, “Why do they keep asking questions if they’re just going to say ‘No’?” My Mom noticed that too, and not until I brought it up with her and my coach at the same time did I notice that it’s when I get nervous, when I’m talking to people, that I say, “No” for no reason.
And all the other things they’ve helped me with, just talking to people, becoming not necessarily a braver person, but a riskier person. I may not be braver in any way, but I won’t be as much afraid to take a risk. To some people that might be bravery. To me it’s just a higher risk threshold. That’s how it’s going to be. I’ve got to work on that too.
There’s a girl that likes me — this is just weird — and I’m “iffy.” I like her, she’s a friend, and all my other friends are like, “You should ask her out! You should go out with her!” And I’m like, “I don’t know.” It’s the risk of going out and losing a friend. And I don’t want to take that risk, I don’t like the risk of losing a friend over something like going out with them.
What wrestling has done for me has changed me. It’s made me a better person. It’s changed the way I am, so I’m going to carry wrestling with me, even though it is over. It’s still carrying through everything my coaches helped me with. It’s still living on in me.
